Is money causing strife between your spouse, family or partners?


No matter if it is a business partner, family member, or significant other, money is often cited as the major cause of divorces, business failures and of course family feuds!

This is often the case, when one partner hides assets, opens “secret bank accounts” or simply spends without letting the other person know!

So, how should money be handled in relationships?

First thing, before entering any type of relationship that involves money, you need to have a money discussion.

For (potential) spouses: Discuss financial affairs such as how situations will be treated in the event an in-law needs to borrow money.  Determine how financial affairs will be handled, such as whether there will be one account or two. 

For business partners: Discuss how profits will be shared? How long will cash be held in the business? What will happen in the event a partner decides he wants to buy out?

How will this person be compensated?

Before entering a relationship, you have to come clean concerning your finances.  This means discussing past bankruptcies, financial mistakes, and/or credit issues.  It is not a good idea to discuss this for the first time while applying for a loan.  Come clean concerning current assets you own and more importantly who you owe as well.  This way, both parties can decide whether they have a desire to move forward concerning pursuing a relationship or take an alternative route.

Doing this beforehand can prevent financial infidelity. 

Both parties must be involved

One of the quickest ways to financial infidelity is one of the partners leaving the financial affairs to the other partner to handle.  For instance, at tax time, it is a good idea for both spouses and/or business partners to review their tax returns instead of leaving it to one person who may be better at handling the finances.  Both partners should review income and expenses to determine where funds are being generated.  This is also the case in business relationships.  All business partners involved should be involved in financial affairs. 

Make observations

Lastly, if you suspect your business/marriage partner has secret bank accounts and assets, be proactive.  Observe spending habits and become more involve concerning your finances.  This may take scheduling a date each month concerning your finances or seeking the help of a financial advisor or CPA.

Kemberley Washington is a certified public accountant and the author of The Ten Commandments to a Financial Healing.


When it pays to break the budget! $100 Giveaway Winner!

Over the past weekend, if you follow me on Twitter or Instagram, you will know that I have been posting wedding pictures from my best friend Crystal’s wedding!  I have known Crystal since the seventh grade and had the honor to be her maid of honor this weekend.

I have to admit, when it came to her bridal shower and purchasing gifts for her along the way, I happily broke my budget.  And here is why…

Crystal is not only a true and loyal friend (which is rare in these days and times) but I truly consider her family.  She has not only been a blessing to me but to every member in my family.  She has been a praying partner with my mother, takes care of my niece and steps in when needed for my family’s last minute errands.

More importantly, even as our lives have changed, we have both grown in God.  For this reason, we would wake up each morning at 5:30 a.m. and pray for our families and seek God’s direction for our lives.  These days, she also takes time to edit each and every article I write.

So yes, when it came time to celebrate her special day, there is no money that can ever repay Crystal for all that she has done for my family and I.  If you see the pictures you will see why I am smiling so big.  She is the best and there is no budget that would keep me from blessing her!

Just this past week, at the same time as I celebrated Crystal’s wedding, I also mourned the loss of my brother’s best friend’s father, Mr. Bobby Roy, Sr. We have to remember life is very short.  Therefore, when moments present themselves to show each other we care, we have to do it.  We never know when we will have that chance again.  I could imagine each and every one of us has someone today we can show them how much they mean to us.  You never know if this will be your last time to do it.

Finally, I am so excited to announce the winner of the $100 giveaway!  The winner is a Michelle Norwood, who has suffered an illness and was only given a few months to live but through God’s grace, she has lived more than 6 years since her diagnosis.  While this gift may not help much, I hope that it can be a blessing to her.

Remember: your choice, your future!

Kemberley Washington is a professor at Dillard University.  She is the author of The Ten Commandments to a Financial Healing.

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